When people take revenge it’s usually because they are angry and unhappy about how they were treated. I am generalizing here. There could be more reasons to it but I believe basically revenge is an act resulting out of anger.
If we think deep enough we will find that those who take revenge are trying to satisfy their own righteousness. It’s as if saying, ‘Oh alright. Since you did that to me, I am going to do this to you’. It’s always the case of an eye for an eye when it comes to revenge.
I am sure many of you may have felt this way before but if you are thinking of taking a revenge on someone, it only shows one truth: people who take revenge are those who don’t know how to manage their own emotions correctly.
It’s common to feel hurt and angry when we feel mistreated but no matter how we are being treated, there is no such thing as righteous anger. Anything done out of anger are always wrong. It’s not an act based on balanced thinking.
If you are saying, you are not taking revenge because you are angry but because you just want to show what is right, it’s an act wanting to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong.
Remember, what’s right for us may not be what’s right for others. When we are being mistreated, instead of taking revenge, we need to ask ourselves, ‘why are I am being treated this way?’ and find the answer and take the necessary action.
If you find that you didn’t do anything wrong but you are being mistreated, you have two choice of actions. One, you can rectify it by influencing the person who is mistreating you by means of taking positive action or two, you can just walk away.
Now, let me tell you, the act of walking away is not wrong at all. It’s not being coward but it’s being smart. If you know someone is mistreating you, why would you want to waste your time and energy with such a person and hurt yourself?
Let’s say you are in a relationship and you found your spouse cheating on you. You can either try to save the relationship by doing something positive or you can walk away. Sometimes, you need to think about yourself, of what is good for you.
If you do take the revenge, the only feelings you probably will get out of taking revenge is some kind of inner fulfillment of successfully getting even with that person, but it doesn’t make any difference between you and that person.
What I am trying to say is people who take revenge are those who don’t know how to let go. If you believe you need to revenge on your spouse for cheating you, it means you cannot let your spouse be.
When you cannot let others be it means you cannot let others go. To let go means to let other people be themselves. The more you let others be themselves, the more you are going to be yourself.
Let others be even if we know they are doing wrong? Well, we are so sure they are doing wrong but are we? Even if we believe what others are doing is wrong, what other people are doing is actually what they believe is right. What we believe is right is only true for us.
We are not here to change others to think the way we think or believe what we belief. We are here to know and discover ourselves. It is common to meet such people who like to mistreat us. They exist to test our patience but will you fail to remain patience?
Just forgive and walk away from this type of people and focus on achieving your own goals in life. There is no point in wasting your time taking revenge on these types of people. They will change themselves when the time comes for them to change.
Don’t you think there are better things to do in life than taking revenge? Life isn’t forever down here in this world. Focus on your personal success not taking revenge on someone. Be smart and put your attention on what matters in life.