What To Do When Your Partner Is Cheating You

What To Do When Your Partner Is Cheating You

When I first found out my girlfriend was going out with someone else behind my back, the anger and pain that came with it was too much to handle. I felt cheated and hurt. It took me few months to get over it and it has been almost three months now since we officially break up. Now, I am so much better with improved perspective on life and love. That’s what happens. When things go wrong, there is something for us to learn and when you have learned it, you will come out as someone better.

If you find your partner cheating on you, there is no reason for you to create an argument of fight. Like I said before, there is no such thing as righteous anger. True love doesn’t gets angry. Just let it go and let the other person be happy with her or his choice of life experience. Everyone have the right to choose the kind of life experience they want. We are not responsible for other people’s choices. As a friend or someone close, we can share our point of view on matters, yet, ultimately, every one of us have to make our own choices.

Sometimes we feel our friends or partner made the wrong choices and we want to help. There is nothing wrong with such thoughts. It only means that you care. Yet, what’s right for us may not be right for someone else? Why do others make different choices than ours? It is because they have different ways of looking at life as a whole. Each one of us carry our own viewpoints according to the way we have experienced life before. This perceptions will continue and change accordingly as we gain more and more experiences in life.

In my case, I did not blame her at all. I looked into myself and I knew, things are happening for a good reason. Yes, there is a good reason for everything that is happening around us. Often we go blaming others for the pain and unhappiness we are facing because we couldn’t see the reason. Whatever the reason, blaming one another cannot solve the problem. It will only be like adding fuel to the already raging fire. Instead, ask yourself, what’s there for you to learn through this experience. This question is important because every experience in life is meant to teach us something. If we are perfect, I don’t think we will be down here experiencing life in this way. We probably be in heaven.

Whatever problems or painful situation you are going through now, will not last forever. This is the natural law of this physical universe. Everything changes. Sometimes, we feel happy and sometimes we feel unhappy. Like there is always a night and day changing, life will continue to change constantly. What’s more important is, how do we handle our own state of consciousness within this constant change in life.

Remember, you have the free will to choose the kind of experience you want to experience, think about it awhile and make a positive choice now. Your life is in your hand, not someone else’s hand. You are responsible for your own self. I made the choice to break up with my ex, and I am happier now. You can too if you are in similar situation. All you need is courage. Don’t fear change, but adapt your self to the change knowing it is all part of being down here in this world. Know this, life will improve, it is an inevitable law of life itself.

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Men want to think women don’t cheat, and women want men to think they don’t cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other. – Helen Fisher

6 thoughts on “What To Do When Your Partner Is Cheating You

  1. It is alright to leave for another person, no doubt about it. But cheating behind someone’s back is a totally different issue. Feelings may have been gone, one has to be truthful to him or herself and to others that committed to him or her. But you are right about the forgiving part. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  2. It is true cheating is wrong. It is very much a painful experience when we come to discover someone we trust so much cheated on us. Yet, I realize something. We can’t change what has happened. What’s important now is our decision. How are we going to negotiate this situation? This is where we have to weigh what’s really important to us. Although, it is important to make other’s happy, it is not right to do it in the expanse of our unhappiness. We have to care for our own feelings too. Thus, if a situation such as in heart break, is hurting, it is better for us to walk away. Of course, it will be a painful step, especially in letting go, but we need to do it for everyone’s sake.

  3. Hai,
    Such a good advice. As a girl I really feel ashamed when think that nowadays girls are doing like this. Hmmmmmm… very hard to find pure sincere love nowadays. Thank you.

  4. I didn’t mean to be one sided in this article. I wrote it for both gender. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. What matters is our maturity and understanding of what is right and what is wrong and making wise decisions. While choosing a good decision can be hard, there’s a good rule of thumb we can always use. When you are about to make a decision to do something, always ask yourself, “What will true love do in this situation?” But before that, one need to really understand what love is all about. Use the search bar in this site and look for the word love, I have written some articles about it. Hope it can give some guideline. Thanks for taking your time and posting your comment here.

  5. Sometimes I really cannot understand why some people treat love like it’s a game, how much hurt if cheating by someone we love. Yes, I agree everyone have the right to choose the kind of life experience they want but I just hope before want to love someone please think isn’t you use their true heart to love his or her… today you so easily to hurt someone one days maybe you also will be hurt by someone, that time you will know how much that pain but all is too late then.

  6. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Vivian. It looks like you are talking about the law of retribution or karma. Well, it is true, every action has a reaction. Good reaction or bad reaction, it depends to our own actions. So like you said, better we choose some good actions so we will get back good reactions. Like the dude from Scorpion’s sings, “what you give.. you get back”.

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