How To Manage Your Anger

How To Manage Your Anger

There are many among us who every so often, get angry easily. Usually we get angry because of frustrations, stress, fear, pain, tiredness, jealousy or sometimes guilt. Whatever the reason, anger is good for nothing. In fact, there is no such thing as righteous anger.

In a love relationship for example, say the man is cheating on his girlfriend who has been very committed and sincere. The girl upon getting to know this, feeling cheated, hurt and frustrated may get angry and for an outside observer, it may look as if she has the right to get angry. Here is a question for contemplation. If she had truly loved without expectation, how could have anger entered her heart? Where there is love, there can be no room for anger of any kind.

The heart that have learned to love, to truly love without any expectation of return, will not and cannot get angry. Yet, to reach this level to love; to just love life or everyone for who or what they are takes lifetime process. In fact, many life times. The whole purpose of births and rebirths is to educate souls to learn to receive and give love. When you have truly learned to love, the whole heaven will be given to you. No joke.

Close observation reveals, people get angry easily because they are not emotionally or mentally stable. This may shock you. No, they are not crazy. The society has the tendency to label the emotionally or mentally instable as crazy. Who is crazy? Those who label people or those who are labeled? Those who have gotten angry to the point of causing mass destructions are not crazy. They are just not able to control their own thoughts and feelings. When we learn to control our thoughts and feelings, we will be able to respond to situations accordingly and wisely. It takes practice.

The next time you get angry, ask yourself, what good does it going to do? Think deeply and you will realize you will loose in every way. Anger causes pain, not only to yourself, to others too. If in a relationship, love or friendship, it’s going to hurt it. It not just causes pain, it drains all of your energy leaving you tired and feeling sick. In extreme cases, it causes heart attack.

So what do you do? The only way is we control our thoughts and feelings. Don’t let the negative thoughts and feelings get into you. Fill your whole being with love constantly. Take a personal research project on what is love all about. Learn it and practice to love without expectation. Practice, practice, practice and practice until it becomes a habit. Develop the habit of loving life.

Remember, the self is like a chair. There can be only one thing occupying the chair. No two things can occupy it equally at the same time. It is entirely up to you to decide what you want to sit there. Love or anger? You decide. You have a choice. Choose your thoughts and feelings wisely and live it.

One cannot get rid of anger overnight, but today if you decide that from now onward you will try not to get angry, you have taken the step. Now, you just need to practice, practice, practice. Remind yourself again and again that you are a lover. One day you will just realize, you are no longer getting angry anymore. True lovers, never gets angry for true love is that beautiful substance that sustains and preserves life. Learn about this love.

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Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. – Joel Osteen

4 thoughts on “How To Manage Your Anger

  1. Hi Cindy, thanks for the comment. Hey, If you like what I have written here, why not share it among your friends. I’d really appreciate that. 🙂

  2. I don’t agree with this.

    I used to think like this but not anymore. I now believe that we must respect ourself enough to express our feelings (even if that means being angry). Especially when someone broke our trust.

    This concept of true love can be dangerous. On this earth, there is no such thing as a totally unconditional love, there are always expectations. If you’re girlfriend is trying to kill you will you still try to understand her on behalf or “true love”? Same thing if your father is abusing you sexually. There is too much physical and emotional abuses in relationships, forgetting ourselfs is not loving ourself and is a good way to be unhappy in this life.

    That doesn’t mean we should not forgive, as forgiving is essential.

    In real life, we are not gods and we try to do the best with what we have. Anger may hurt and cause pain for a moment, but the price for not expressing our hurt and deception is too big in the long run.

    I believe that we feel pain because of our own self and the way we negatively look at a situation. It is true that anger is a result of this pain (that ideally should not be there) but if you feel pain, you should express it.

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